Illusion or not...Error_____

Who has had a chance to discuss relationships with me knows what I say about them all - there is no such thing as a relationship, it is all our imagination, our perceptions of the reality. There is no hatred or love, theres is what we think it is, what we want it to be. I say we take the image, the outer layer of a person we like physically and apply to that person all the good we want to see in his/her deeds, and then get disappointed as we see our expectations are not met. I have said this to so many people and so many times, that I myself started to believe in it.
And then there is my good friend, my system restarter Harout, who looks at me through the smoke and says " Sun, illusion is what you want it to be. Reality is what you neglect. You call relationships illusive, but you experience the authentic". Error_______
Defence mechanism?

The old and the new

Old is always boring, and new is attractive, new is promising. But why is it so that as I get the new, I get disappointed very soon and want to go back to my same old, same boring?! And is that only my brain that functions this way?
I want a new phone, I get it, and then I compare it with the old one, and suddenly the old seems more valuable to me. The new one sucks. Why? Because the old one has memories of my conversations and messages and photos with my beloved ones. It took my a while to undestand I love the old simply because it relates to me, and the new can relate too, once I invest in it.
This refers to friends, boyfriends, people in general,too. Old is gold, but new is always better. Or is it not?