Noone is flawless: we just choose to cope with the flaws of the beloved ones only.
Every time I feel I have an absolute friend, a flaw shows up, it might have the face of a rude remark, an accidental gossip or a secret that was expected to be shared with me. And then there is this dilemma- to fight or let go.
Fight hasmany faces. I have done one fight with a close friend not to lose. I just disappeared from the life of the person, knowing it would make us even closer when we make up again. At the edge of losing forever we found out each other, thanks to Life, and since then nothing is strong enough to split us up. We tried being without each other - one month was the maximum we could endure.
It is easy to get mad and send your closest friends to hell at the moment of rage or hurt,but is itworth all the life you have shared till then? Who will gain from loss? None.
Yesterday at a party one greatcomplete stranger was talking about friendship and said "We are capable of changing a lifetime friend with an hourly acquaintance, it is our essence.But one needs to cherish any friendship and work on it. The message of the conversation was "everything needs to be talked over". I could not have agreed more. After being the initiator and supporter of sending my closest friends to hell I have understood one thing; If I decide or life makes me choose someone as a friend I need to take the full pack of the person, including the good, the bad, and the crazy, and always remember that my full pack is not less difficult to handle.
Working on relationships, talking matters over, not giving up, not being weak- my new working points.
Every time I feel I have an absolute friend, a flaw shows up, it might have the face of a rude remark, an accidental gossip or a secret that was expected to be shared with me. And then there is this dilemma- to fight or let go.
Fight hasmany faces. I have done one fight with a close friend not to lose. I just disappeared from the life of the person, knowing it would make us even closer when we make up again. At the edge of losing forever we found out each other, thanks to Life, and since then nothing is strong enough to split us up. We tried being without each other - one month was the maximum we could endure.
It is easy to get mad and send your closest friends to hell at the moment of rage or hurt,but is itworth all the life you have shared till then? Who will gain from loss? None.
Yesterday at a party one greatcomplete stranger was talking about friendship and said "We are capable of changing a lifetime friend with an hourly acquaintance, it is our essence.But one needs to cherish any friendship and work on it. The message of the conversation was "everything needs to be talked over". I could not have agreed more. After being the initiator and supporter of sending my closest friends to hell I have understood one thing; If I decide or life makes me choose someone as a friend I need to take the full pack of the person, including the good, the bad, and the crazy, and always remember that my full pack is not less difficult to handle.
Working on relationships, talking matters over, not giving up, not being weak- my new working points.
